Day 6 from Personal Power 2 by Tony Robbins

Wow. What an exciting session.

In this session I’ve studied about another way to change your state and this is through the power of your focus.

Let me put it this way. You go to a party. What you focus on, on that party is what is going to determine your experience. Do you focus on the people that don’t partake and prefer to play Pokemon Go? Do you focus on those in the corner who are making out? Do you focus on the people who are friendly and sociable?

Life is like that party. You can’t focus on anything in life. This is not how the brain works. Instead, you focus on something, like pointing a camera towards a part of the world and you tend to ignore and distort everything else. Your perception of reality is a part of reality that you’ve picked to focus on and not the objective one.

You see everything through the lenses of a camera and you can point it only to a small part of the objective world at any moment in time. Plus, since the camera is a bit different for every single person and there are many things to point at, the perception tends to be highly subjective.

How you point this camera determines a large part of your state. There is always something to be upset about. There is also always something to feel good about. There is always an obstacle that can make you sad. There is always something to be proud and excited about. It simply comes down to where you focus your attention on.

And you know how this focus is developed? Through questions. Questions are the building block of thoughts. Every thought you have is first determined by a question. Questions are the cause and thoughts are the effect. Some questions are done on a subconscious level but others are something you are aware of.

When it comes to questions, the main two questions that you’ll keep asking yourself or better said, the brain will use are:

What does this mean and what should I do about it? It is assessing and determining a course of action. This is how we are build. The answer to these two questions will determine how you act in many different circumstances.

How you evaluate reality determines how you feel about it. Any question you ask will find an answer, real or false. If your brain is faced with a question, it will search for an answer, no matter if that answer is serving you or not. For example, if you ask “why is this always happening to me?” your brain will find reasons why – putting you in the posture of the victim or of the aggressor but in any case, not in a posture where you can actually do something about it.

So the quality of your focus actually comes down to the quality of your questions. Questions change what we focus on and what we delete from our experience of life and as long as we delete things, why not delete what’s disempowering us? (while focusing on what’s empowering).

For example, a question like “Can I do it?” leads to a state of uncertainty, even security. A question of “What can I do right now to get to the next stage?” leads to a more practical, empowering answer. When you focus on why it won’t work, you’ll find ways not to make it work. When you focus on why it will work and how, you’ll find the answer to that. You’ll get the answers to the questions you ask – empowering or not.

You ask yourself questions all the time, realizing it or not. From what to eat to how you interpret reality, your brain is in a constant loop of asking questions and finding answers for it. These questions determine your focus and this focus determines your behavior.

So if questions determine behavior ultimately, why not ask good questions like …

  • What can I do today that it will make it a better, fun day than before?
  • What can I do today to improve my business?
  • What can I do today to achieve a breakthrough in my life?
  • What can I do today to empower the people that I love?

The exercise today was to build a series of questions I can ask every morning, as a ritual. I can write them down or do this mentally, but these questions have the purpose of focusing my attention in a way that empowers me and puts me into a state of gratitude (in order to have a rich life, you need to start with a rich self, and that comes from gratitude).

Here are the questions I’ve came up with in my own exercise:

Q1: What am I most happy about in my life right now? What about this makes me happy? How does this makes me feel?

What else am I happy about in my life right now? What about this makes me happy? How does this make me feel?

Q2: What am I really excited in my life right now? What about this makes me excited? How does this make me feel?

What else am I excited in my life right now? What about this makes me excited? How does this make me feel?

Q3: What am I really grateful in my life right now? Why am I grateful about this? How does this makes me feel?

What else am I grateful about in my life right now? Why am I grateful about this? How does this makes me feel?

Q4: What am I really proud about in my life right now? What is about this that makes me really proud? How is this making me feel?

What else makes me proud in my life right now? What is about this that makes me really proud? How is this making me feel?

Q5: Who do I really love? What do I love most about this person? How is sharing and gifting this love making me feel?

Who loves me? How does this person loves me? How is this love that I’m receiving making me feel?

For me, this was a brilliant lesson that gave me a very good tool towards directing my focus and energy in the right manner.

Thanks,
Razvan

Day 5 from Personal Power 2 by Tony Robbins

Hi,

This CD was about state change.

State, to put it simply means how you feel about something. A happy state means that you’re feeling happy. A sad state means that you’re sad. States can be classified as empowering and disempowering. An empowering one is any combination of feelings that allows you to give your best. A disempowering one is the combination that limits your behavior (fear, anxiety, etc).

In a way, everything you do in life is to achieve a certain state. We don’t want relationships, we want the state that relationships bring us. We don’t want money, we want the state that money gives us. We do things mostly for what they make us feel and not for what they are. We want to feel good.

Your state, how you are feeling at any given moment has a massive influence on how you’ll behave. This is because your emotions can either amplify your performance or limit it entirely. Think about public speaking. If you’re feeling anxiety and sadness or if you are feeling tired and depressed, then your ability to deliver the speech will be limited. If you feel happiness and excitement, you’ll act in a totally different way. The emotions you apply to a given situation will determine how empowered (or not) you are in that situation.

Since emotional states are so important, we must learn to MANAGE THEM. You can manage your state or the state can manage you. You can either be in an empowered state and give your best or you can be in a poor state and give your least. The choice is yours.

It is assumed that 80% of any action comes down to your state, to how you are feeling and 20% to the how. The WHY that determines your state is more important than the HOW, the strategy that you’re applying.

To make it clear for everyone, HOW YOU ARE FEELING IN ANY GIVEN MOMENT WILL DETERMINE A LARGE PART OF WHAT YOU’LL DO AND HOW WELL YOU’LL DO IT.

Feel passionate and happy? You’ll act in a certain way.

Feel sad and bored? You’ll act in a different one.

If you want to give your best, don’t focus on a better HOW. Focus on a better WHY (an empowered state).

One of the most effective ways to control your state is to control your physical body. The way you carry your body sends signals to your nervous system about the mood you should have. If you walk talk, have a big smile on your face, shoulders back and you stay this way, it is PHYSICALLY IMPOSSIBLE to feel depressed.

For example, a big part of why smoking works is because you take deep breathes when you smoke. Well, you can try it without the actual nicotine since it does about the same thing.

Emotions are determined by motion. How you feel determines a large portion (not completely, but significantly) of how you feel.

Another thing that heavily influences your mood, your state is what you eat. The different levels in your body like blood sugar influences your mental power, focus, etc. Putting quality food in or at least, preserving a good balance between what your body needs and doesn’t need improves your state.

The exercises were to talk to someone about something I’m not passionate about, in a dispassionate state; to talk with someone about what I’m passionate about in a charged up, passionate state and then to mentally review the difference between these two.

The key concept here? Use your body in a way that it empowers you. There is a direct link between your emotions and how you use your body. There is also a direct link between what you eat and what you feel, at least from the perspective of a bio-chemical balance.

Best regards,
Razvan

CD 4 (Day 4) from Personal Power 2 by Tony Robbins.

Hi,

Here is where it gets serious and where my decision to start again, this time taking notes and doing the exercises proved the right decision.

On this CD, I’ve spent about 90 minutes to answer four questions:

a) What are four things I want to change?

b) What are the absolute reasons I must change, what’s the pain? (ten of them, minimum).

c) How can I interrupt my pattern, the way of doing things like I’m doing now?

d) What am I’m going to get if I change? What’s the benefit? What’s the desirable outcome? How is my life going to look?

This made me engage in a lot of soul searching about what needs to change in order to have a high quality of life. The writing part took just a few minutes but getting to those answers took a lot of time, as I had to actually think, not consume information passively.

After today, after this CD, I don’t have any interest in studying something passively. I’m going to take notes, I’m going to do the exercises, I’m going to get involved because the leverage you get is 5 – 10 times higher than simply listening to the program.

So let’s move to what I’ve actually learned.

NAC or neuro-associative-conditioning. In other words, it is the system to change pain and pleasure association. It is something found in all psycho-therapy systems, be it CBT or Freudian or Jung. It is about getting to a point where you want to change, finding a way to break the current pattern and building the payoff into the system.

In other words, NAC works as follows:

#1 – Get leverage.

You can’t change if you don’t want to change. If there’s a part of you that doesn’t want to change, it won’t happen. So you must find as many reasons as possible why you need to change. If it is a “nice thing to do” or “you should change”, it won’t work. You must be at that moment where you scream “something must change, I can’t take it anymore” to have leverage towards doing this.

Leverage is important. For someone who is drinking, after he lost his house and family, sitting there, crying, he may have the realization that he must change. For someone who got really fat, after he or she was rejected, he or she promises this to be the last time.

You don’t need to be in a desperate situation to get leverage. You just need to have a serious conversation with yourself why something (you) must change right now and that you’re not willing to accept things as they are now. You must convince yourself to hate how things are now and that they must become something else. This can be done by talking with someone, by writing huge lists of reasons, by external factors, by your doctor telling you that if you don’t quit smoking you’ll die, by your girlfriend leaving you, by waking up one morning and realizing that you’re wasting your life away and so on. You must face the situation and accept that things are not as you want them to be.

You don’t need to hate yourself or be harsh. You and the situation are two different things. Instead, you must realize, in whatever way works for you that you’re not willing to ACCEPT this situation anymore and that something is going to change and you’re going to change it.

#2 – Break the pattern

To be honest, I remember this part from my NLP study but I don’t know it very well. The idea is that we have patterns in life, patterns of behavior or things we do without even realizing. Since most actions are a cause set in action, where one trigger leads to a sequence of events, we hardly realize that we act the same way (or almost the same way) every single time.

Well, we need to break that pattern. It is like when you argue with someone and then that person makes you laugh. You’re angry but you’re laughing so your pattern is broken. In all honesty, most examples provided were in direct therapy scenarios and not on a global one – like how to make a person change focus to something else. This is something I’ll probably learn more about later.

However, in a way is simple. Find ways to break whatever you are doing. Like if you are smoking, then look for ways to associate pain with smoking. Or throw away your cigarettes. Or promise, pledge not to smoke. The idea is to break your pattern in small or big ways. I’ve broke my pattern of complacency a few months ago by starting to wake up early again. I’ve broke my pattern of sitting on my ass all day years ago by receiving a FitBit as a gift. If you’re going south, you want to start taking actions that head you north. They may be or may not be enough but they’ll change your heading and if you do this enough times, you’ll change your direction at 180 degrees.

#3 – Get some new associations

In step one you’ve acknowledge the pain that happens because you don’t change. In step two you’ve thought of ways to break the momentum of the pattern and change the heading. Here is where you recognize what the new direction means.

As you know – we will run away from pain towards pleasure. Or we will run from a big pain to a small pain. The idea is that we’ll run away from pain, no matter what. So come up with the positives, the benefits, the pleasure that you’ll get by changing your direction. What will this change mean for you? How will it change your life? How will the new positive you look like? How will this bring happiness and progress? Find the carrot here, as opposed to the stick in phase #1.

I’m going to learn more about NAC but this is the system to start with:

  1. Why you must change (the negatives).
  2. Ways to break the pattern.
  3. What you will get out of it (the positives).

Thank you,
Razvan

Day 3 from Personal Power 2 with Tony Robbins

Hi,

This CD continues with how pain and pleasure influences our life and focuses on the concept of neuro-associations. You may know this under a different name – Pavlovian response.

As I’ve wrote in the last blog post, we want pleasure and we want to avoid pain. This shapes our life. The associations that we make with any activity are neuro-associations. So associating pleasure to learning is a neuro-association or an anchor or a Pavlovian response or however you want to call it. The idea is that it is an association.

Neuro associations are not positive or negative. They are and they are formed all the time. It is hard to form a neuro-association on purpose but instead, it comes as a consequence of linking emotions to an event. I remember thins very well from NLP, where the concept of anchoring was used. This is a bit broader than anchoring but it works the same way.

Neuro-associations are something like this …

IF pleasure THEN activity

ELSE !activity

In other words, they are conditional statements made by your brain to decide what to do next. If you associate pain with something, you’ll want to avoid it. If you associate pleasure, you’ll want to do it. If you associate both, usually avoidance behavior and self-sabotage happens. If you have two pains, then the biggest pains win.

Positive thinking, because of this, doesn’t really work. I mean, you don’t really think positive. You associate pleasure to challenge because it allows you to discover who you are. Or you associate pleasure to trying and failing because you’ve found another way. It is framing the situation from an emotional point of view so the outcome doesn’t bring you pain but positive thinking, by default is reactive. You need to be aware to think in a certain way, to have control of your thought patterns and usually by the time you become aware, the event already happened. Neuro-associations on the other hand simply associate pleasure and pain with concepts and then they are felt automatically.

But enough theory. Let me talk to you in practice.

You know Fifty Shades of Grey? It is a … decent book trilogy, I guess (I’ll admit, I’ve read it) that focuses on a love story between a billionaire and a young and innocent Anastasia Steele. With BDSM. Domination. And a lot of kinky sex.

Well, this book started a new sociological trend where BDSM became popular. Overnight, girls read this book and wanted to be tied and dominated.

How did this work? How many young girls decided they want to feel pain? Well, a neuro-association was made not between pain and happiness but between pain and love. Christian, the character was also very romantic, caring, handsome and rich. So, a neuro-association was made that BDSM is somewhat related to the love life of the rich and powerful. I know. It is stupid but I’m in marketing and that’s how it works.

The same can be said about Marlboro. Here’s a secret about cigarettes. They smell awful, they cost money and they kill you. It’s not really such a good product. Yes, they do have a bio-chemical effect on your body but overall, the value proposition is low.

So what did they do?

They’ve associated smoking with being cool. With freedom. With liberty. Famous people in movies started smoking. People in leather jackets driving muscle cars smoked in commercials. The idea of smoking after sex was imprinted in our mind in virtually hundreds of movies. The most famous out of them all was the Marlboro man. Here’s this rugged, tattooed real man, on a horse and what is he doing? Smoking.

So if you want to be like him, you need to smoke. Actually, you need to hit the gym, get a tattoo and get a horse, among others but that’s not how the brain works. Marlboro linked smoking with huge feelings of significance and masculine status. E.L. James (Fifty Shades Of Grey) linked bondage, ropes and physical punishment to the idea of an exciting relationship and real love. Hey, don’t blame me, we’re built to make associations based on context, not based on meaning.

The associations we make sometimes serve us, sometimes they don’t. A lot of the associations that I had in high-school are very different now. When I was in high-school, I always skipped physical education. Why? It meant pain for me and no pleasure. Now, I pay to do this. It means pleasure, stress reduction and a better future.

And this leads me to the key question. The key question to determine a neuro-association regarding a concept is …

“What does X means to me?”.

What does money means to me? What does love means to me? What does learning means to me?

The answer, honest answer, to this question will reveal your neuro-association, fully or at least partially. It is your story regarding that particular concept and it will include your pain / pleasure association.

Let me give you another example – how I’ve started smoking. I haven’t started smoking because I was too stressed. C’mon, I was 14. Instead, I had some popular friends and they were always smoking. Girls would come to them to ask for a cigarette. They would sit at a table, with a cigarette and look so cool.

I associated smoking with popularity, status and their air of “I don’t give a damn”. This is how my mind associated, on a subconscious level smoking. I’ve never made the decision to associate this but rather, it just happened.

What if instead only the unpopular people smoked and the popular ones went to the gym? What if the people I admired and wanted to be like were the ones that had the healthy behavior while the “bad crowd” had the negative behavior? The association would have been completely different.

I didn’t want to smoke. I wanted to be popular. Like one of Pavlov’s dogs, I’ve associated one signal with another. I’ve associated behavior with a drug which wasn’t a good idea. My brain didn’t got the memo of the money wasted, the burned clothes, the awful smell and the health problems.

Many, many years later, my association became from “I’m cool” to “I’m a idiot for wasting money and slowly killing myself”. Now when I see someone smoking, I don’t really appreciate that person. I feel a bit sorry for him or her because I know how hard is it to quit but also because I know how it is a huge price to pay for a bit of relaxation.

Some people find significance by helping others. Others find it by harming them. Some find pleasure by engaging in self-destructive behavior. Others by harming themselves. The idea is that neuro-associations are not good or bad, they just are. It is just an answer to “I find this to be something I like and I want to do” or “I find this to be something I don’t like and I want to avoid”. There are folks who associate building a business with “good” and there are people who associate selling drugs with the same “good”.

So how do you change them? I’ll discuss this in another post but first, you need to become aware. Once you become aware of how you take decisions and why, you discover that there is a reward there if you do it and a pain if you don’t do it. Everything that is pleasurable has a built in reward, even if you may not be fully aware of it. Even violence has a built in reward, usually a feeling of power and significance.

But in the end – our behavior is mostly done on a automatic basis and when this happens, we will head towards what we find pleasurable for us and we’ll avoid of what we consider painful.

The first step is to become aware of this and the second, which will discuss later is to slowly start changing your associations.

Best regards,
Razvan

 

My Notes On Day 2 Of Personal Power 2 By Tony Robbins

Hi,

I’ve just finished Personal Power 2 and it came with some interesting insights. It is not actually new, since I’ve listened to it before but this time, I’ve actually did the exercises and took notes. Last time when I’ve listened to Personal Power 2 and did this exercise it was when I was 16. Needless to change, a thing or one thousand changed since then.

As a note here, even if I do exercises and read books I’ve read as soon as five years ago, I’ll still see them in a completely new light.

Resuming, the idea behind this session is how pain and pleasure controls our life.

You see, the reason why most people don’t take action is simply because they fear pain. They fear the pain of what could go wrong (failure), the pain of the effort or process or even the pain of success.

Every person on this Earth is driven by a simple force – the need to avoid pain and the need to gain pleasure. That’s it. It is something we’ve knew since we were kids but we’ve hardly ever thought about it. When you like something, you want to do more of it, when you don’t like it, you want to avoid it. This is why after touching a hot stove for the first time, you’ll not want to touch it again. Pain and pleasure are the “rules” for our lives and it works on a emotional, mental, spiritual and physical basis.

For example, when we procrastinate, delaying something we need to do but we don’t, we are avoiding pain. We find the action painful compared to the alternative and that’s why we leave it as late as possible. On the other hand, if we need to deliver it tomorrow, then the pain of not doing it because higher than the pain of doing it and we get to work.

When two pains are side by side – pain if you do it or pain if you don’t do it, the bigger one will always win.

Our behavior is determined by what we apply pain and pleasure to. We’ll work hard to avoid pain and then we’ll work hard to get pleasure (pain tends to be a stronger motivator to action compared to pleasure, however, as soon as the pain goes away, the motivation goes away too).

For example, if we have a cake in front of us and we have a choice between eating it and not eating it, our body will be predisposed to eat it.  Now you may be saying though “oh, no, because the pain of getting fat is higher than the pain of not eating the cake”. Well, in a way that is true but your brain doesn’t operate on an abstract long term, at least, not automatically. Behavior, when no awareness exists is directed by what you focus now on – the pain and pleasure that exists in this moment, not the long term consequences of your actions.

When it comes to pain and pleasure, it is simple. You can let it control your life or you can take control of it and take control of your life at the same time. The proverbial carrot and stick are the engines to action.

This is not always obvious.

Think about money. The truth is that if you don’t have money, you link more pleasure to having money than not having. You may think that this is wrong but think about it. Do you associate pain or pleasure to the work required to get money? Do you associate pain or pleasure to the fact that you’ll lose a lot of friends but welcome others in your life? Do you associate pain or pleasure to the fact that your life is going to change? If you associate pleasure to all of the above and you still don’t have money, then you don’t have a behavioral problem but a strategic one. However, chances are that the answer is no – you associate pain to something required to earn money, directly or indirectly, therefore creating a blockage.

Speaking of which, let’s use going to the gym as an example. Some people associate massive amounts of pain, from the humiliation of not being good enough to physical pain. These people don’t stick to the gym too much. Others associate pleasure like meeting their friends, relaxing or at least, getting outside of the house.

On a abstract level, both parties associate pleasure to going to the gym. Going to the gym means an improved body which means an improved quality of life. However, behavior is not dictated by your SMART goals, behavior is dictated by what you focus on right now. The statement above, the long term consequences of exercises may direct your strategy, how to get there, but actually executing on that strategy comes down to what you associate to it – pain or pleasure?

Let’s think of a salesman. What does a salesman need to do primarily? Call and sell. If a person associates a lot of pain towards calling or talking to new people, can he be a good salesman? No. Because pain will act as a brake and he’ll either not do it at all or his performance will be inferior. He must associate the idea of pleasure to calling, in that particular moment and also in the long term, to know why he is doing what he’s doing.

Every action you take is measured on a scale. On one side you have pain. On the other side you have pleasure. There are many elements including beliefs, the environment, connections, systems, assumptions that determine where the action will fall. For example, if you associate Coca Cola to diabetes, then you’ll put drinking Coke very far into the pain category. But if you associate it to fun times, then you’ll drink more coke.

I think I’m overcomplicating things here a bit. Well, the idea is simple – whatever you focus on right now that the action will bring you, pain or pleasure, be it real or not (your perception may simply be artificial, it doesn’t matter) dictates where you are likely to go with your behavior. It doesn’t mean you’ll always do that but it means that you’ll likely do that, which on a statistical level is equal to certainty.

So how do you change this? By starting to think from terms of what is going to be the pain if I do this to what is going to be the pain if I don’t do this. However, don’t think in terms of years or decades. Think in terms of now. You’re taking an action now, not five years in the future. Yes, having long term leverage like a reason why for 3 – 5 years is great. It is amazing to have a vision that pulls you towards things. But people who only have a vision tend to forget that the future is build based on the actions of today.

Finally, the exercise had me think about four things that I know I should do but I didn’t; what is the pain associated with doing them; what is the pleasure gained by not following through (the other side of the coin); and what it will cost me in 2, 3, 4, 5 years if I don’t change, if I don’t follow through.

I’ve realized during this exercise that I’m in avoidance mode to some really important stuff in my life and that sooner or later, I need to get on it.

Before I finish, let me explain something.

When I was young, I’ve associated massive pleasure with learning. Honestly, I can’t remember how it happened but it was like a trance, I wanted to consume everything. When my classmates were reading a book per year, I was reading a book per week or one every two weeks. I was consuming courses, audiobooks, books in all my spare time. I was putting in info at such velocity that I was making mental breakthroughs at a huge rate.

This helped me get ready for life far faster than other people and allowed me to take some responsibilities that were at least five years too early for me at that moment.

I didn’t need to convince myself to actually read. I simply enjoyed it. It was like eating chocolate or smoking, when I did smoke. I felt so much pleasure paying for books or finishing a book or sitting late at night reading one more page. I’ve associated massive pleasure to learning and this changed my life.

This is how it works. When you associate massive pleasure to something that serves you, it becomes a second nature, it becomes something your body, mind, emotions, spirit automatically wants out of it.

To what you associate pleasure it becomes destiny. People who associated pleasure to playing the piano became piano players or teachers. People who associated massive pleasure to writing became writers and so on. I’m not saying successful ones because if 100 people become something, 20% will suck, 60% will be average, 20% will be good but that’s another story. However, they were influenced that way.

The same can be said about negative habits. If you associate pleasure to drinking, you’ll drink more. You know on a deep level that drinking is not good for you and that you have so much to lose out of it but when you have a bottle in front of you, the pleasure of the present moment is higher than the pleasure of denying it long term.

For me, I was a lot into blaming and victimizing. It is society’s fault, parent’s fault, etc. I drew a lot of pleasure from this because I received a lot of sympathy as a consequence. Well, at some point I’ve realized this, I’ve realized that it is a feedback loop and I’ve decided to stop it. I’ve attached massive pleasure to taking personal responsibility and this changed.

Here’s another one – do you know that when I was a teen I was suffering from social anxiety? Like finding it difficult to walk down the street because there were people around me?

Well, this came from my life in high-school which was … a compromise to say at least. I’ve learned that human contact is bad and that being alone is good. However, after I’ve finished high-school and moved on my own, so many things changed – made friends, discovered myself in romantic relationships, saw real kindness and human beauty and slowly, I’ve began to associate massive pleasure to people. I’ve associated it so much that I’ve left on a long term journey just to meet as many as possible. I still need time alone, sometimes, to recharge but the feeling inside is that people = pleasure.

Another example – I was big into video games. I must have played everything. It is not a joke. I think I’ve spent more time playing video-games, lifetime value, than studying business and self-improvement. When I was a kid, being shy, I was spending a lot of time alone. Games gave me access to a new world and were able to fulfill, albeit superficially, needs I was not meeting otherwise. Because of this, they’ve became among the most important thing to me.

Well, slowly, as I’ve found other things and I’ve started to see how they impact my life, the pleasure moved to pain. Now, the idea of playing a video game is somewhere in both pain and pleasure territory. It gives me a feeling of significance (because it is easier to be a commander or a general in a game than get shit done in real life) but I also associate the pain of wasting time and giving myself a bad physical state if I play. That’s why I’ve played less than 50 hours in the last two years. In comparison, I was playing 50 hours per week when I was in high-school and even a bit after.

Pain and pleasure may not seem a big thing in the moment but in the long term, it is destiny shaping. Your preference or avoidance of broccoli has long term consequence. Your association of pain or pleasure with conflict will determine a large part of how you communicate. Your association of pain or pleasure for letting other people do the work and giving up control will determine if you’ll be an entrepreneur or self employed or employed.

So don’t let pain and pleasure control you. You’ll be at the mercy of randomly formed neurological associations. Use pain and pleasure to control your life.

Thanks,
Razvan

Focus works. Productivity Cycles Work. The Circadian Rhythm Is Real.

I’m excited.

Why?

Because I’ve found a system that works so well for me. This is the third day in which I’m using my so called Goal Buster and it is amazing what I’m achieving with it. I’ve finished three projects in three days (well, two of them and 90% of the third one) when an average length for such a project was a minimum of 3 to 5 days.

And you know what it is the best part? I’m going to finish at around 16:30 today, which means that for the rest of the day, I’m done. I’m going to have four hours obligation free. At 16:30, if I don’t stop, I’ll have invested eight hours into my weekly goals, making it a perfect day.

I’ve achieved this by waking up early (05:15), getting through my morning ritual (showering, having breakfast, listening to some Tony Robbins) and starting work as soon as possible. The first cycle (2 hours) completed with blazing fast speed. The second was still fast and by the third one, it became a bit more frustrating, as at this point I ran out of energy and focus.

Now I’m on the 4th one and I’m going to complete the cycle in about two hours. This means that today I will have finished by 16:00 what usually took me a three to four days.

So what is the lesson from all of this?

  1. Start the day early, as early as possible.
  2. Have a buffer time between the moment you wake up and you start work but keep it under two hours.
  3. Work in cycles of two hours each on the most important project & tasks you have right now.
  4. Don’t procrastinate and don’t take big breaks. It is easy to lose momentum.

Are there downsides?

Yes, I’m exhausted, physically, mentally, emotionally. It is only 14:30 and I feel like taking a nap. However, I’ll have enough time afterwards.

So use the power of focus and use the power of productivity cycles. This stuff works extraordinarily well. Once you

… get into a steady rhythm of work and pause

… once you learn to simply move down a list of tasks without trying to do 100 things at once

… once you sit there and do your job, before your body has a chance to become tired

… amazing things happen.

I would like to make a point though – on the “before your body has a chance to become tired”. I’ve noticed something interesting. There are two energy depletion mechanisms in the human body. One is circadian based on how the body works and the other one is when you actually expend energy through effort.

Therefore, your energy rate will deplete far slower between 05:00 and 15:00, no matter the effort expanded, compared to the evening. To make an analogy, the first half of the day is like keeping your phone into airplane mode. Energy is consumed very slowly. The second part is like activating 4G, downloading a podcast and turning max brightness on. It will be consumed a lot faster.

So, for better or for worse, if you start early and try to finish your priorities as soon as possible, you’l take advantage from your body’s natural rhythm. If you try to do it in the second part of the day, you will be able to get far less done as the biological advantage is gone.

I don’t fully understand how it works but I consistently get the same results. I don’t get superior performance just because it is quiet in the morning. It is quiet all the time and when it is not, I just use headsets. Instead, I get superior performance because my energy, focus and motivation are overclocked thanks to my biology and these gradually decrease as the day moves forward.

So if you were looking for a reason to wake up early, this is one. You’ll get a huge dose of natural steroids for your mental, emotional, physical and even spiritual energy until a bit after noon. However, if you are tired, if you haven’t got enough sleep, if you’ve drank, if you’ve not recovered properly from the previous day, the added stress on your body will just cancel this advantage. Waking up early is great but it is not going to do a lot for you without enough rest. I’ve had days in which I’ve slept only 6 hours in two days but this is not a sustainable strategy, nor is wise. If I’m forced by circumstances to do it, I’ll do it but I’d rather not. Nor should you.

I guess now I need to ask another important question. The goal buster system works better than anything else but it leaves me depleted. So I must have a renewal system at the end of this one which raises my energy to acceptable levels. I’m thinking about swimming in a nearby health-club or something similar. Nevertheless, since using this system you’re expanding huge amounts of energy, you need a renewal mechanism for the second half of the day, if not, you’ll sleep all the time.

Honestly, I don’t know enough about energy renewal to design a system that can achieve this. However, I have a few books on my to-read list that will answer this question. When this happens, I’ll be able not to very efficiently (and profitably, I may add) expand tons of energy in the first half of the day, but also renew once this is done so I can fully enjoy the second part.

At some point, even this type of system will become outdated. Why? Because eventually I don’t want to do anything at all. I want other people to do it, using procedures and systems. I honestly don’t plan on working for a large part of my life, so while now the goal is to have as much of an impact as possible on my goal daily – in a few years it is going to be to reduce the effort I’m investing to a minimum.

Well, that’s about it. It has been a long post and I won’t edit it, but if you’ve read it carefully, you’re going to find some actionable nuggets of information inside.

Best regards,
Razvan

Why You Need To SIMPLIFY Your Rituals & Systems

Hi!

I’m an awful coder yet I like to code. Or better said, I like the logic behind coding, the cause and effect relationships, the syntax, the beauty of a program running and executing on each line.

And you know what’s one of the most beautiful things in coding? Having a simple code. Writing ten lines instead of fifty. Having one command to do what it should take five.

This is a lesson that most people forgot when it came to “writing code” for the real life AKA building rituals and systems. They overcomplicate things. They add 15 different steps. They have multiple points of failure.

At some point, I had a morning routine that took me between 4 and 6 hours to do. That’s not a joke. It involved around 14 different steps. Imagine waking up every morning and going through 14 steps sequentially without feeling frustrated, overwhelmed or annoyed. Yet, this is what the “productivity gurus” taught me, that I must do a lot of things in the morning.

My current morning routine has three steps.

  1. Wake up at 05:00.
  2. Shower, groom, drink some water.
  3. Go outside and return about one hour later.

And guess what? It is stable. It computes. It works. There are no major points of failure. The only big one is waking up early but even if I wake up a bit later, I can still do it.

This lead me to understand how I need to simplify a lot of things in my life. I don’t want a complex workout routine. I want a simple one, one that is so simple I could even explain to a kid. I don’t want to have complicated marketing or product development or HR systems. I want them to have as little steps as possible and those steps to be as simple to execute as possible. I want simplicity because the simpler something is, the more likely it is to keep working. And the more likely is something to keep working, the more likely to achieve my goal. After so many years I know that the key lies in consistency and little in everything else.

For example, before, I’ve had a really nice system for determining my daily tasks. It is called the Compass HQ and you can find it here, on the blog. To put it simply, there were nine questions, which when answered, each determined a task.

Here are three of them:

  • What is the ONE business / personal skill I can improve today which will help me accomplish my vision for my mental dimension?
  • What is the ONE entertaining activity that I can do today which will help me relax and recuperate from my active life?
  • What is the ONE form of physical activity I can do today which will help me accomplish my vision for my body and health?

The problem with this is that they were hardly focused towards my goal. It helped me maintain some balance but that’s about it. It was a jack of all trades, master of none approach. Plus, some days you need to work more, others you need to study, others you need to R&R so I’ve dropped the system.

The current system is as simple as it gets.

Cycle #1
Step 1: Wake up at 05:00.
Step 2: Shower, wash teeth, drink water.
Step 3: Go outside and listen to one hour of Tony Robbins. While doing this, have breakfast and walk.

Cycle #2
Step 1: Invest four Pomodoros into the next action step(s) on my goal list.
Step 2: Take a 30 min break.

Cycle #3
Step 1: Invest four Pomodoros into the next action step(s) on my goal list.
Step 2: Take a 30 min break.

Cycle #4
Step 1: Invest four Pomodoros into the next action step(s) on my goal list.
Step 2: Take a 30 min break.

Cycle #5
Step 1: Invest four Pomodoros into the next action step(s) on my goal list.
Step 2: Disengage from all other work. The day is over.

Sleep Cooldown
Step 1 – Listen / read 30 minutes in the evening.
Step 2 – Go to sleep at 22:00.

How do you get it simpler than this? You have a morning routine and then cycles of work and rest. The problem with this one though (it is a nice problem to have) is that it works too well. I’ve finished most of the things I could do for an entire week in two days. Actually, writing this blog post in itself is me creating work for myself – as I have nothing else to complete.

With the past system, I was struggling to complete and usually, this meant putting a lot of effort in the weekend to finish before my deadline. Since creating work for myself for the sake of working is stupid, I’m going to tweak it and take full days off. Tim Ferris just launched his new book and there is a new Tom Clancy novel, so spending a day or so only reading is appealing.

And this leads me to another idea in system theory. You test and see what works. When I’ve created the system, this one, I haven’t taken into account that I can finish everything on my to do list in 48 hours so I’ve never accounted what happens if there’s nothing more to build, nothing more to develop.

This is what organic growth is. Now that I’ve seen what happened, I can made tweaks or improvements. My goal in this particular case is not to have my work last me my entire week. In all honesty, if I can work 2 days out of 7, I’m happy with it. I’ve got things to do. The particular goal of the tweak is to actually focus on work that is meaningful and to prevent me from creating work just to keep something running through it.

In a way, if you think about it, non important work is better than no work at all but at the same time, there are things outside the scope of my goals that I can do. So in a way, instead of organizing my emails, I’ll get more value by going to the cinema.

Systems grow organically and this happens especially when they are simple. A simple life generally works better than a complicated one. A method that has three steps to accomplish a certain outcome is superior to one that takes five steps.

(This made me realize something. A few days ago, I’ve started studying Personal Power 2 by Tony Robbins. It is a four step system:

  • Study that particular day, taking notes.
  • Do the exercise(s).
  • Write a blog post about it.
  • Teach it to someone else.

There is a major bottleneck in teaching it to someone else as folks are either not available, the hours do not match or I simply don’t have the energy anymore to do it. So, in the faith of simplifying to increase system wide efficiency, I’ll just delete the last part. I’d rather have a system that works predictably and has no bottlenecks or major points of failure than one that works 25% better but has a problematic IF / THEN condition.

The same can be said about posting here. I’ve tried to post in a manner that appeals to as many people as possible. This frustrated me as I want to focus on getting some valuable message across and not entertain. So I’ve decided just to write as I want to write and even if it appeals to 10% of the general population, it appeals to the right 10%. I really need to remind myself that jack of all trades is master of none and try to be “universal” in my approach to blogging.

 

So that’s the main idea. Simplify. Find how to get something in as few steps as possible and do that but keep it very simple. When I was training with a personal trainer, I was doing the same rotation every single week. The exercises were exactly the same. No need for fancy machines. No need for interesting exercises. I was doing dumbbells and squats and machine raises and he was repeating me to do them until I couldn’t anymore.

I mean really, why do you need ten different ways to train your biceps? Or your legs? Do you want to be a male model and you want to train at the individual level of the muscle – so you look good on the cover of GQ? Then sure, go for it. But for most people, it is simple. You need to train your major muscle groups. You need a simple way that is least prone to injury. And you need to put in the work, day in and day out. Push-ups works. Squats works. Why do you need more when there’s a fast and simple way to do it?

Think about it.

Take care,
Razvan

WHY Rituals & Habits Must Be Designed As STABLE Systems.

Hello,

After a few years of pursuing success, I have understood a basic truth. When you want to change something in your life, the strategy is not difficult. Information is easy to come by. If you want to trade like Warren Buffet, train like Daniel Craig or build a brand like Richard Branson, you can access this information with ease.

The “HOW”, for most people in a 1st world country is easy to acquire. Opposed to this, the real reason why people fail is not that they don’t know what to do. It is that they are not doing it.

Well, it is kind of obvious you may think. That’s true but stay with me. You see, everything in your life comes from your rituals. Who you are right now is hardly the consequence of a one time decision. Yes, some events threw you on one path or another but generally, what you are is the sum of compounded rituals. Therefore, the key to changing your life is to have the right rituals – ranging from drinking more water to showing gratitude and to working on the most important tasks.

If you haven’t left the page yet, here comes the real kicker. The consistency with which you do those things is the determining factor for your success. Putting it simply – you’re not to going to get thin for going once to the gym. You’re not going to get smart for reading one book. You’re not going to get rich by working one day.

Any goal is achieved by rituals that are repeated again and again. A marathoner won’t wake up one morning and run 42 kilometers. Instead, he is going to train daily or weekly for months before he even tries to run the marathon. A writer doesn’t become a writer overnight. He writes day in and day out until he “gets it”.

Rituals or how I define them – systems, are the engines of our lives. You are a success because of your rituals and to some extent, of your decisions. You are a failure of the same thing.

And when it comes to rituals, there is a concept from systems theory called “stability”. It is also called a self-reinforcing feedback loop. Well, in simple terms it means a system that self reinforces itself, that acts like a perpetual mobile of sorts, where A leads to B and B leads to A.

Let me give you an example – a negative one. Smoking. When you smoke for the first time, you train your brain to raise the level of dopamine. Dopamine tends to be a very addictive substance, not as addictive as others but still. When the level of dopamine is raised, you feel good. When the level of dopamine lowers, your brain will want you to smoke again so it can go up again. This is how smoking creates a stable system. Smoking promotes the need for smoking. The need for smoking promotes smoking. A -> B -> LOOP A.

Conflict. Why do people argue? Well, there are tens of reasons so let’s just define them because the conditions makes it easy for them to argue. It may be the need to dominate, it may be a physiological condition that influences their mood, it may be lack of respect. In any case, something pushes towards emotional aggressiveness, be it an inner or outer stimuli.

When you argue with someone, you alienate that person and make that person respect you even less. Alienation and not respecting a person can and usually leads to arguing. Arguing builds the conditions required for the arguing to exist, leading to a self-reinforcing cycle.

Complaining. If you complain to someone who is empathic about your situation, that person will provide you with positive feedback. He or she will show love and care, a positive. You are rewarded for complaining with something positive. Therefore, you’ll complain more in order to get more of the positive which in turn will lead to situations that makes you complain more.

You get the point. When A leads to B and B leads to A, the system becomes very stable and hard to break. I’ll give you one last example. I’ve quit smoking but in the past, I’ve considered smoking as a solution to stress. One day, I was reading online about how much is smoking hurting me. This elevated my stress level over the roof. So I’ve went smoking. I admit it, we human beings, are built in a very strange way sometimes.

A system, once it becomes stable, tends to reinforce itself. It becomes stronger with each evolution until it is almost impossible to break. However, you know what’s the best part of this? What works for addictions and destructive behavior, works with positive behavior too. Building a feedback loop is not only about potentially harmful behavior but also about the kind that will upgrade your life.

So how does it work?

Let’s play a numbers game. Every painful thing you do takes three points. Every pleasurable point you do adds three points. In order for a system to be stable, it needs to be at zero or above zero.

So you start with waking up early. This goes to -3. What do you do here? Go running for ten miles? Exercise for 30 minutes? Well, if you’re like me, this will take you to -6. No. You add something that makes you happy to get back to zero. A system that is at -3 is consuming more than it is provide and it will collapse on itself. Putting this simply – when you want to do something that brings more pain than pleasure, you’ll not do it. At worst, it must be neutral. At best, it must be biased towards pleasure.

So you wake up and you’re at -3. Then you drink coffee which brings it at 0. Then you have breakfast which brings at +3. Then you go on a run which brings it at 0. You see how it works? As long as it is above zero, you don’t have to use willpower. You don’t need to force yourself. Your pleasure will compensate for the pain. It becomes a feedback loop.

Think of it this way.

You have a car. You have a hill in front of you. You push your foot on the gas. The car slowly goes up. Now it is on top of the hill. It will go down without you using any gas and it will charge your battery at the same time.

The key to building stable systems is to design them in a way that you’re adding while you’re taking. For every thing that it comes hard to you, add a reward. For every thing that makes you tired, add a pause, a break, some R&R. For example, I hate Facebook, I despise it. However, when I post there, I get many likes and many personal messages that praises me. This creates a feedback loop. I post because I get pleasure. Posting in itself takes effort and time but I like to get the pleasure.

Most people try to draw too much power where there is little or none. I know people who created routines that are almost impossible to execute simply because they add so much pain and so little pleasure. You have product and consumptions. Consumptions is anything that doesn’t come naturally in doing while production is anything that adds energy – mental, emotional, spiritual, physical.

You can’t treat life like a sprint because honestly, you’ll burn out. How does it help you if you use all your willpower to do the right thing one day … two … three … maybe even one week, if you give up after? It doesn’t. Your main job, your mission is to design your life and build your rituals in such a manner that they become stable and consistent. It is not about being a hero once – it is about being a hero every day.

When you go to the gym, you don’t exercise eight hours in the row. You exercise 1 hour and rest for 23. So it is with life. You can’t sprint over a long distance. Yes, sometimes you need to forget about building stable systems and just pile up the things you need to do. However, in the long term, what you’ll do is …

… what makes you happy (or at least, not hurt you)

… you have a strong why for it

… it acts a habit.

Since willpower depletes rather fast, in the long term you’ll always revert to your default setting – the one of pain and pleasure. I can do something that I hate. I can even do it for a while. However, for how long? A few days? Weeks? Unless a balance exists between the effort of the activity and the pleasure that comes with it, it will be impossible to sustain long term.

Focus on building stable systems. Make them simple. Counter any pain with pleasure so a feedback loop can exist. A withdrawal of willpower must be rewarded as soon as possible with a dose of pleasure. A withdrawal of physical energy must be rewarded with an equivalent deposit of rest. This is how habits, rituals and systems are build long term and this is how winning is done.

Now, here’s your homework. Think about how this happened in your life before. Think about what you are doing right now and how you’ve build stable systems without even realizing. Then think of where can you do this again.

Thanks,
Razvan

My Transformational Journey With Personal Power 2 (CD 1)

Hi,

I’m a huge Tony Robbins fan. This guy, through his tapes and videos has been in virtually every stage of my life. I think I know about Robbins since I was in high-school.

However, even if I’ve “knew” him for a long time, I’ve never completed his signature program called “Personal Power 2”. I’ve always stopped at some point in time, unfortunately.

So when I’ve started again, I’ve decided to go through, until the very end. At about day 9, I’ve realized that I’m just cheating myself for not doing the exercises and not taking notes. I was motivating myself but I was not really improving my behavior through success strategies.

So I’ve started over and this time, I’m following a simple four step cycle for each CD.

  • First – I’ll study it. I’ll listen to the CD and I’ll take notes at the same time.
  • Second – I’ll do the exercise or exercises. I want to really get involved in the transformation process this time.
  • Third – I’ll write a blog post here, so I can systemize my ideas and help others.
  • Fourth – I’ll teach what I’ve learned to another person. The easiest way to learn something is to teach it.

This blog post is about CD 1. Keep in mind that I’m not sharing my notes here but rather, I’m expressing, in my own way, how I see each day.

So let’s get on to my thoughts.

The first day was mostly an introduction. It talked about Tony Robbins and about what you can expect from this program.

When it comes to the strategies, I’ve learned a few key ones:

  1. Personal power comes from the ability to take action and produce results.
  2. You must focus on things that empowers you and increases the quality of your life.
  3. If you want to be successful, you need to study success. Your path has been taken by someone else before who knows how to get from A to B.
  4. You have your “success point”. If you’re under this, you’ll work harder to get there. If you’re over it, you’ll self-sabotage to get back to it. That’s the point where you are comfortable.
  5. Learning more doesn’t change your life. Taking decisions and acting on them does. Learning improves the quality of those decisions.

The ultimate success formula:

  1. Know what you want.
  2. Take action and move towards your desired outcome.
  3. Observe if it works or not.
  4. Adjust accordingly (do more or change your approach).

While this process works, it is faster to model what others people are doing. While no situation is identical, if it works for someone else, it will work for you.

The exercise (which I haven’t completed so far, more on this, in a moment) is to write two decisions that will change my life and to take one action right now for each one of them.

This was my biggest insight because I honestly haven’t completed it. I’m stuck here. For example, I may say go to the gym or exercise or go for a run or do this or do that but the truth is that I’m stuck. I already have goals, I already have a structure in place, I already act towards what is changing my life. I guess this exercise was not designed for someone who already planned on a daily, weekly and main goal dimension but I need to complete it. Or maybe my decision taking muscle is not developed enough and I fear getting this wrong, I fear errors so much that I haven’t completed it.

In any case, I’ll do so today.

Best regards,
Razvan

Are You Failing In Life? You’re Not Satisfied With Where You Are Right Now? It Comes Down To Only TWO Factors To Change This – Let Me Explain Them To You In The Article Below!

Dear friend,

Let me ask you one thing … Why do you think that some people are successful and others are not? I’m not talking only about financial success. You define the terms. It can be academic success or romantic one or simply peace of mind. It can be weight loss or creative success or anything in between.

Brains? Luck? Connections? Don’t get me wrong. All of these DO matter, a lot. However, the truth is a bit different.

It comes down to two forces – maybe the biggest, most powerful forces in the universe. Employ them and you’ll be able to reach whatever destination you’d like. Ignore them and you are at the mercy of randomness, of “fate” as some folks put it.

These two are DIRECTION and EXECUTION.

Now, let me think that we’re traveling together, alright? We’re somewhere in South America. Our phones are dead. No battery. We don’t have a GPS. We don’t have a map and nobody speaks English around. My Spanish is limited to “Tequila por favor”.

We’re trying to get to our hostel. We don’t know where we are but we know that the hostel is somewhere. There is a defined end point. We also know that we’re not very far. We’re maybe 10 – 15 kilometers away and we can walk there.

What do we need in this case? Courage? Motivation? Yeah, we need those. I mean, I’ve messed things up and we’re lost now. But will courage and motivation alone help us?

Well … no.

We need to head into a direction and we need to walk into that direction. In other words, we need to set a path from where we are to where we need to be and we need to execute on that by actually putting one foot in front of another.

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If we just walk, without a direction, we may even get further away from our goal. Yes, it is true, we’re going to improve our fitness but if we’re heading south when our hostel is in the north, we’re actually moving away from it. And if we’re having a direction but we don’t execute on it, wild Pumas are going to come and eat us or we’ll starve in the wilderness. Both are sides of the same coin.

So what do we do? Giving up? No.

We determine what is the best direction possible. We don’t know exactly how to get to the hostel but we’re settling on a direction. Maybe it is in the direction of the mountains because we know that the hostel is that way. Or maybe one of the locals pointed to use a general direction and we hope he’s right.

So we decide that North is our best bet. We get our backpacks and we head north. We start walking. Then we reach a river. We can go through it so we sit down and think about what we can do. We decide to find a way around the river. We walk for a few more minutes and we find a bridge.

We keep going and eventually we reach a sign. Our destination – 12 kilometers to the west. We set towards the road to the west. So in this way, by constantly changing direction based on new hints and info, we reach the hostel. Many directions later and after a few hours of walking, we can drink a cold beer and post our experience on Facebook.

And … so it is life.

I mean, think about it. Life is about deciding where to go and acting on it. You decide on what you want. You’ll never get a full plan. Let’s be honest. If life was a simple as following a set of static checkpoints, it would be damn easy. But it is not. In life you get general directions and you’re heading there. Sometimes you get a good damn tip on how to get there and this saves you tons of time.

But … in general you don’t get something like geographical coordinates of where you need to go next, you get hints of what would work and what wouldn’t. I mean, you get some intuition, some advice, some books you’ve read and you decide on a direction. It’s more like “head north west” than “Latitude: 40.712784 | Longitude: -74.00594” (it is New York if you’re wondering).

When it comes to traveling, this is simple. I mean, you fire up Google Maps and just get a direction or you use your compass or anything else. When it comes to actual life, it is damn difficult because the direction is not always obvious and it is influenced by many factors.

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This is why I’ve created a procedure for finding that direction. It’s a set of eight questions that when asked, helped you zone in to the right direction. There are not as pro as using a brainstorming session or strategic planning tools (booriing!) but rather they help you adapt your direction every single day.

How does it work? There are eight questions. Each question asks “What would be an amazing thing to do in this area of my life to accomplish what I want for my life?”. Based on them, you create a map of sorts, with daily goals that you can accomplish. Again, it’s not 100% accurate but it is a lot better than not thinking about it. It is like your compass that gives you a good direction towards your actions.

And guess what? I’m giving it away to you for free.

Here’s the link:

Click Here To Download “The Compass SOP”!

But here comes the kicker. You can set great destinations. Will this help you if you don’t take action on them? Well, yeah, in a way, it is better than being ignorant and not knowing what to do.

But those goals are never going to be achieved if you don’t act on them. Determining these directions is like finding the perfect restaurant in town that has the best food for you – the food you love. Acting on them is like going to that restaurant and eating it. That’s the real value, you know? You can’t get value just by knowing what to do. You get value only by doing. The preparation and strategic part is good but strategy without execution is just wishful thinking. I mean, if I have a hammer, it is valuable if I don’t use it to hit nails? Of course not. The potential value you can create in your live is decided by picking from several directions. The real value you can create is by acting on that direction.

It’s like us, being again in the middle of nowhere, trying to find the hostel. I mean, we’re there. Even if we know exactly – walk 10.450 steps at 34 degrees North-East, how is that going to help us if we don’t actually walk? It is going to help us if a Uber comes along but when it comes to your goals – there are no taxis, no Ubers, no tubes, no Oyster card and double decker busses. When it comes to it, there is putting one step in front of another and walking.

Let me repeat this to you.

The potential value you can create in your life is determined by your ability to make good decisions. That value exists there as a potential. It is what it can be.

The real value you can create, you can expand, you can make happen and benefit from it is only based on acting on those decisions.

If this process was about building a tower, decision making, setting your direction helps you determine how tall it can be by smart planning. However, the tower will exist ONLY when you lay brick by brick and put those decisions in actions. Decisions alone are worthless. Actions without smart decisions at least have a 50 – 50% chance to be right but decisions without actions have a ZERO PERCENT change of creating an outcome.

Got it?
Decide your direction and act on it.

Me thinking about running 10 kilometers is good. It’s better than me thinking about watching two movies. However, me RUNNING ten kilometers, acting on my decision is the ONLY factor that is going to unlock the benefit from that decision – health, fitness and the such.

Got it?
Thank you so much for reading. I really, really appreciate it.

Best regards and have a great day!
Razvan

PS: Here’s the link to the Compass SOP again if you’ve missed it!

Click Here To Download “The Compass SOP”!