Look, success of any kind is an uphill battle. It is not easy. It is painful. It is frustrating. It is a hassle. If you are progressing easily through your goals, then your goals are not big enough. This doesn’t mean that it needs to be a torture but progress of any kind tends to bring some form of friction.
But it is worth it. The life that is on the other side, after accomplishing your goals is worth it. Accomplishing your next task is worth it. Accomplishing what you’ve decided for today is worth it. Accomplishing your goals for this week is WORTH IT. Having a great month is again, worth it.
A good life is made out of good years. A good year is made out of good months. A good month is made out of good weeks. A good week is made out of good days. A good day is made out of good hours. A good hour is made out of WHATEVER YOU ARE DOING NOW.
So the lowest denominator is what you do now, your actions now, your progress now. It is not something in the future but the steps you take right now towards your destination. It is the step you are taking now towards the 1000 mile destination.
Because if you think about it, your goals are 1000 miles away. And you can take only one step at a time. You can’t take the car. You can’t take the train. You can’t take the plane. You need to walk towards that destination. There are no shortcuts. And sometimes you’ll have to walk through rain. Other times through thunderstorms. In rare moments, you’ll walk through a pleasent spring breeze. But you need to take those steps, one more step, one more step towards your destination.
Successful people know that they are the creators of their life. They suffer from circumstances as everyone else. They know that bad things happen and that not everyone and everything goes according to plan. Actually, most things don’t. But they know that they can control a few things.
They can control their actions. They can control their mindset. They can control what they eat. They can control how much they exercise. They can control how they treat the problems in their lives.
And that’s enough. Even if you can’t control most people … even if you can’t control some aspects of reality … you have control over your own vehicle. You are in the driver’s seat and that is enough.
Think about it this way. Your goal is on the top of a mountain. A huge mountain that is intimidating just to look at. Most people won’t even try because they don’t consider themselves good enough to achieve it. Others start but eventually fail.
You must be different. You must put on your boots and climbing gear and get to work. One step. Two steps. Three steps. One thousands steps. Ten thousands steps until you are at the end, at the peak. Until you can look at what’s around you and say “I’ve arrived bitches”. You can’t control the fact that there is snow. You can’t control the fact that there will be strong winds. You can’t control the fact that you’ll feel like freezing sometimes. But you can take one more step, one more step, one more step and eventually, you’ll reach it.
In life, it is hard to change the rules of the game. You must learn the rules, you must submit to them and you must learn how to win the game. You can change the rules only after you’ve won the game enough times to have a strong enough influence.
This morning I woke up frustrated. I’m not in the mood to do anything. I don’t want to do my fitness training in the morning. I don’t even want to shower. But I’ve made a decision to do them. Why? Because fuck failure, that’s why. Because I know I can make tomorrow better thanks to today. Because I know that in a few weeks or months I’ll look back at this day and I’ll thank myself for following through with my goals.
I have a huge list of goals that is doable but challenging, to say at least. What I’m going to do today will not complete that list. It may or it may not even make a dent in my list. But I’m taking the steps required to progress on it. There aren’t any dramatic actions that I’m aware of to finish 25% of my list overnight. So today, maybe I’ll accomplish 0.1% from my general progress from this year. But that 0.1% will make my life better tomorrow than today. In other days, I may progress 2% or 4% or 5%, because every single day, I’m building up towards reaching my destination. And one day, I’ll look at that list and what will I see?
Progress = 100%.
I’ll be done. That’s when I’ll kick back on the chair, get myself a cuban cigar, a glass of good brandy, I’ll turn up the music to the maximum and I’ll know that I’m done for this year. I’ll know that I’ve done my best and this year is highly superior thanks to everything I’ve done. I don’t know when that day will be. Maybe it will be in June. Maybe it will be in December. Maybe it will be 30 minutes before the New Year’s Eve. But I’ll reach it.
Life is what you make out of it and everything you do towards your goal will help you. The fact that I’ve decided to write these blog posts will help me. I still have around 350 to go but each and every single one will help me and if you read them, they’ll help you. The fact that I’ve exercised daily helped me. The fact that I can do 20 push-ups in the correct manner helped me. The fact that I’ve purchased a Goalscape Connect subscription helped me.
Each and every thing that I’ve told myself that I must do and I’ve done helped me. I don’t have a single regret. I can’t find a way to say “Geez, I wish I would have wasted my time instead of pursuing my goal, what a waste of time”. I am PROUD of pursuing my goals. Instead, I am ashamed of wasting so much time playing video games or watching movies or surfing the web.
- I can live without interesting facts on Wikipedia.
- I can live without reading general blogs.
- I can live without discovering what’s new on EnGadget.
- I can live without visiting forums to see the same type of info again and again.
- I can live without smoking.
- I can live without staying up late.
- I can LIVE WITHOUT WEAKNESS, not for an ideal but because I want a better life.
What else can I say? You need to make the effort. You need to put in the wood in order to have the fire. If you want a huge blazing fire to warm up your life, you can’t put just a few pieces of wood. You need to put in tons of it. These tons are the discipline to do what you need to do. To wake up early. To exercise. To work hard. To become smarter. To fix your obstacles. To take care of your needs. To invest money where you need to invest.
Life is a fair mistress. She’ll treat you right. You should know this.
You’ll get rewarded for what you do that works towards your goal. You’ll get punished for what doesn’t. I’m not talking about karma. I’m talking about cause and effect. Life is not moral, life is causal.
From time to time, I’m looking back at my life.
I have only one major regret – that I haven’t tried. That I haven’t put in the action. That I haven’t paid the price towards what I wanted. I’ve tried some things that failed but at least, I’ve tried. At least I’m not wondering “what if”. But there are many areas in which I could have started earlier and do more.
I’m not trying to compare myself to amazing people who achieved amazing things at an early age. Laura Dekker sailed the world alone at age 16. Some dudes made billions of dollars in the tech niche. Some actor made tens of millions by age 18. I’m not comparing myself with them because it is not helping me. They are outliers and they are rare cases. Statistically, they are 0.000001% of the population, maybe even less.
But I’m comparing with myself, my past self to be more exact. I’m proud when I can do things a bit better, a bit more compared to a day ago or a year ago. I’m proud when I’m elevating my life even if it is by 1%. I’m proud when I’ve accomplished another goal on my list because Razvan one second before completing that goal lived an inferior life.
And I’m ashamed when I get sometimes home and instead of doing something productive, I fire up Netflix because I’m too much of a coward to face my problems heads-on and do something about them. I’m ashamed when I see a beautiful girl on the street which I’d like to meet but I don’t have the guts to approach her directly.
My goal is that one day, I won’t have any regrets like this. I won’t settle for the second or third or the 100th prize. My actions, my life, my behavior, my environment will be a reflection of what I consider that I deserve. But in order to get there, I must fight for it, every single day. One step at a time. 0.1% at a time. I have a goal to write 365 blog posts, 366 with the intro. This one will be the third I’ve wrote. 3 from 366. Before doing this, I was at 0.54%. After writing this, I’ll be at 0.81%. I’ve made a 0.3% progress but it is progress. My life is better as a consequence!