If you somehow look at my calendar, you’ll see something interesting… or strange.
All my hours are filled. From the time I wake up and I grudgingly go to the bathroom to wash my teeth… to the end of the day, I have a dozen or more appointments with myself.
And I honestly believe you should do EXACTLY the same.
There are three reasons to this…
The first one is a philosophical one.
The second one is practical.
The third one is that you should love yourself.
Let me explain…
So, on a philosophical level, you will die. Sorry to make your day worse but this is true. One day, you’ll die.
It may be one year from now or sixty years into the future. You may die slipping on a banana peel or in your bed surrounded by your loved ones.
But YOU WILL DIE.
And realising this isn’t something morbid… but rather, the best thing you can do for yourself. It frees you. Once you understand that you’ll die – there is nothing to be afraid of. All of this, all that’s around you – will end anyway.
And it also makes you realise how limited your time is.
How you’ll have maybe 50 more Christmas celebrations… 50 more times to enjoy summer… 50 more times to celebrate your bday.
Life is actually quite short if you think about it…
… but it is short only if you don’t live it, only if you survive it.
And no – I don’t want to go into a cliche here but there is a huge difference between LIVING and SURVIVING. Most people survive. They go through the same motions every single day and that’s their life.
Six months pass and they’re like – when did this time pass?
They’re on auto-pilot… and on auto-pilot, life is quite, quite, quite accelerated.
It reminds me of when I was in high-school (and hated every second of it). All I could want is the weekend to come so I could play video games.
So weeks passed without any joy or meaning… as five days were just me waiting for those last two days to come.
And I’d love to say that this is limited for most of us to high-school… but it isn’t.
Most people go through months or even years being asleep. And they’re ruining the most valuable resource we all have (not money), which is time.
So the philosophical reason why you should plan each and every one of your days is because you’ll die and you’ll run out of time. And unless you become VERY INTENTIONAL about how you want to live your life…
… then you’ll soon realise you don’t have a life to live anymore.
When you start each day with clear goals and meaningful actions to take – you give value to your precious scarce resource, time. You make it count.
And since a good life is nothing more than having many good days…
… the key to a good life, as the stoics say, is to make each day matter. And you make each day matter one activity, goal or task at a time.
The second reason, as I’ve mentioned, is practical.
Time is a strange animal… it’s like a wild, black horse that is very hard to tame.
If you leave time (and yourself) to its own (your own) devices, you’ll end up not doing much. This is because if you go through your day without a clear plan or at least some strategy on what you want to accomplish (and why), you’ll notice that there are a million things to do that aren’t that important.
That’s why I can finish complex projects in days, when others take weeks but sometimes I look at my closet and I’m like…
“Fuck, I have no underwear to wear, guess I’ll go commando style today”.
It’s about setting priorities… and unless you are CLEAR on what’s important to you and you dedicate time to get it done, you’ll usually default to the less important and trivial.
I mean there is an infinite number of dishes you can wash…
… and an infinite number of small errands and in the grand scheme of things NONE matters.
People would feel ashamed to end the day without washing their dishes… but would feel perfectly content to go a day without reading or working on some important project.
So when you open the calendar app…
… and you add stuff like “work on my shopify website”, you’re basically telling yourself that one thing is more important than the other.
The third one – self love, is the most important.
And it will also be the HARDEST to explain for you because it’s hard for me to understand it too.
Once a girl I was with told me “please stop smoking because I love you”. And it was sweet. And this simple phrase haunted me for almost a decade.
Because she loved me more than I love myself – as if I loved myself, I wouldn’t intentionally kill myself, right?
And I’ve realised… in time, that if you love yourself, you do what’s right for you.
You eat right.
You drink a lot of water.
You put first things first.
You make life for your FUTURE SELF better.
And this is the paradigm shift I hope I can inspire in you…
… there is a future self out there for you.
Just like you have an inner boy or girl inside of you that’s hurt because she never got enough love… and we all have our inner child hurt to some degree, so there is a future you that hopes you’ll do stuff that will make his or her life easier.
And my future self wants me to not worry about finances… or health… or to be surrounded by loving people.
The self of tomorrow doesn’t want a harder life because I’ve been an asshole with him and decided to squander my time. He wants to have it easier. So in a way – I must make sure his life will be better – while I also make my life better now.
So there it is…
I honestly believe you should START each day with a clear plan of what you’ll do that. It can be a list or it can be like me, calendar entries.
And you should do that because…
FIRST – You’ll die one day and unless you realise how short your life is and how few opportunities for joy and growth and adventure and love you have, you’ll wake up one day wanting more of that, but running out of coins to put into the machine.
SECOND – Because unless you prioritise what’s important, you’ll default to what’s trivial… as that’s human nature and the path of least resistance is a real thing.
THIRD – Because you’re worth it and you deserve a better life and I love you and you should love yourself too. And since I love you, I want to ignite in you a desire to TRY to live a life that makes you happy – even if it’s not guaranteed. And since you should at least love yourself, you shouldn’t squander this fuel called time, fuel you can use to paint the life you desire.
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